How to Get
Over Breaking-up
Here are some pointers on dating and breaking
up.
How To Recover
There are so many ways to get through break
ups. What works for one person doesn’t always work for
another. Some get really depressed and lose hope while others
don’t beat themselves up over the situation. You can
usually get advice from friends and family but it doesn’t
mean you need to do what anyone tells you. We all listen but
do what we want in the end or until we feel ready to listen.
Besides, different friends and family members are certain
to over varying perspectives on how you should feel, what
you should do to get over the person, and what your next course
of action should be.
Advice on Recovery
I can tell you first hand that I’ve
been in some long term relationships and have learned a lot.
Letting go has always been hard for me and I’m still
not the best at it but I am so much strong now and have learned
so much about myself and what makes me tick. Chose your own
method and try and work through it. Go out, cry, laugh, and
talk until your friends want to put a sock in your mouth.
Whatever you do learn from your relationships and try to figure
out what it is you want and how to go after it.
Professional Help or Hiring a Coach
Therapy is the best medicine. For all of
you who say “that’s for the weak,” you are
so wrong! You can try and deal with all your feelings yourself
or talk with friends and family if that works for you. But,
talking to a professional who doesn’t know you as well
can be much more objective and really help you focus on what’s
really going on. A lot of us sabotage relationships all on
our own due to past experiences. Maybe we have a commitment,
intimacy and or communication problem. Why not invest in yourself
and mental well being? Are you afraid of what you will discover
or are you ready to face your fears and move on?
Spiritual
Believing in something or someone is an
awesome experience. I was never too religious so when things
got bad I wanted and needed something to believe in. So once
I was unemployed for awhile and I started reading some books
on spirituality. I started to believe that I had a higher
power. It doesn’t have to be God or even a person. It
can just be a thought or image. We are all here for a reason
and it’s a journey to figure out what your path is.
Coping Methods
We all cope differently so pick what works.
Exercise and working out regularly can help you cope and relax.
Yoga classes are great for your mind as well as your body.
Sometimes we just need to sit with our feeling and work through
them. Keeping a journal is a great way to get your feeling
out. Plus, looking back and seeing what you have written can
blow your mind. Meditate if you like. Get into your work and
just do your very best. Buy a pet or go shopping. If you’re
a man, go out and get some toys or build something. These
are effective ways to spend time on a project and get time
to help you.
Pity Party
This is not the best option but it works
for some people. Have the party alone or ask your friends
to join you. But, you only get ONE. It solves nothing but
is a great way to cry or get some attention from loved ones.
Check out my other dating
articles and my dating
blog for more!
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